Lying is a form of betrayal. It betrays trust, and can devastate any relationship, yet, in marriage, the marital bond is permanently damaged from lying. Of course healing can happen, but it’s never the same level of trust between married or long-term spouses or partners, AFTER trust has been severely broken. Since we’ve been with […]
Read more "Lying"Well, back at “that” place. Not surprising, b/c DDay #2 happened in the middle of last July and right around that time, a mass (tumor) was found in my mediastinum (upper chest between heart and lungs). I thought I had cancer. It’s been a rough year. Two. traumatic events “mixed together” again. In early spring, […]
Read more "Triggers Again"Our “shelter” So. Couples have been sheltering-in-place for quite a while now. For us, it’s been over two months. It’s a lot of extra strain for people — financial, perhaps children at home all day, worries about health, loss of loved ones, employment, and not being connected to “our people.” People need people. I’m fortunate […]
Read more "Trauma Prepared Us For Shelter-In-Place"So. This was my part of my husband’s “daily check in” yesterday. Betrayers can get STUCK in a pattern of negative thinking, self-loathing, accomplish nothing for the day, etc. (This is what he told me.) So he said it’s important to just get up and move when that happens. Do something. Even if it’s only […]
Read more "Stuck in Trauma? Get moving."My husband doesn’t typically cry. In the past, he rarely showed emotion, except with me, sometimes he’d share his vulnerability (misty eyes). This past 1-2 weeks, though, he’s been crying during his daily check-in. Tears down his cheeks crying. No, he’s not depressed (I’ve seen him in mild-moderate and DEEP Major Depression). These are good […]
Read more "Floodgates Open"Healing from thoracic surgery, healing my Vagus nerve (partially paralyzed from surgery), healing from over 2 decades of betrayal. Healing. There’s nothing like nature to support healing. Lake Ontario sunset (my 50th Bday – a few years ago) My therapist took me on a journey again yesterday under hypnotherapy. I normally find myself in a […]
Read more "Hypnotherapy and Healing"Restorative yoga has been recommended for me by a few professionals to help me heal from betrayal trauma and the trauma from my husband’s suicide attempt in early 2016. Now, Restorative Yoga is being recommended to help me heal from my recent thoracic surgery. I’m working on healing my whole self. Mind, body, spirit. Linked […]
Read more "Healing, Continued…"I saw my therapist yesterday. She’s more than a “talk therapist” – she employs somatic techniques, light touch (clothed) while entering the relaxed state of hypnosis, and she guides me on inner journeys while under hypnosis. She’s very experienced with trauma, PTSD, CPTSD, etc. At no point, do I feel out of control, like what […]
Read more "A Blueprint To Healing?"Today there was a flood in my basement. I made a mistake; I was multi-tasking and I turned on the faucet in the laundry sink to soak something, and walked away. I got involved with something else and forgot to go back and turn off the water. The flood went through the floor onto my […]
Read more "Metaphor Amid Loss"Humans need a sense of purpose, something to work towards, something which energizes us, something which helps us feel that we are contributing to a greater society, something which gives us meaning. This motivates us. Drives us. Lacking sense of purpose can lead us to boredom, anxiety, and depression. Having sense of purpose gives us […]
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