Gratitude.

The Universe nodded. Winked, even? Divine timing? I’ve been looking for a yoga class where I’d hopefully feel safe with an open heart. Then ding, ding, ding – – – there’s a Slow Flow yoga class a few minutes from my new home, on a good day and time. I look up the […]

SHAME part 3: betrayed spouses and partners

Betrayed partners and spouses are yet another group of collateral damage with the many “players” in sexual compulsivity. Betrayed women often feel tremendous SHAME. From: Independent.co.uk – Sex addiction hurts partners in a way that no other addiction can, says Paula Hall, who has written a book on the subject. Sex Addiction: The Partner’s Perspective is […]

Shame part 2: suicide and self-harm

There are many victims in the sex trade industry. My last blog was about a woman, Jane Doe Ponytail, who “fell” and is now dead. Often, the “clients” of these women are sex addicts or sexually compulsive men, seeking sex as a “fix” to soothe their depression. In an article about the consequences of sex addiction, […]

SHAME, part 1: lethal exploitation

So much shame. Exploitation of women. Many victims. Lethality. The Case of Jane Doe Ponytail

My New Job Description: Process – Grieve

Help Wanted! Character Requirements: tenacious, diligent, resilient, flexible, gracious, team-player Hours: 24/7 Position: Betrayed spouse Salary: None ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ I didn’t apply for this “job” but I have no choice since my goal is healing, whether I stay with my husband or not. What are my two big jobs at this juncture? Processing and grieving. Process […]

Anniversary v. 24.1 x 2

It’s my 24th wedding anniversary today. I don’t celebrate the day, as it reminds me of broken vows. My husband celebrates it, though. That’s his choice. He’d respect my wishes if I asked him not to acknowledge the date, but I haven’t made that request of him. It’s also ‘sort of’ an anniversary of the […]

Moving. And moving forward.

Live your life. Keep moving. We don’t know how much quality time we’ll have in this lifetime. So. Keep moving. AND. I’m moving. Literally. With boxes and such. Because. Life moves on. And we’ve built a home. In a village which is walkable and bike-friendly. Near water. No doubt that moving is a strong […]

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